When people find out that I’m an adoptive mom, or a foster mom, they often tell me that they too have thought about adoption or foster parenting, and then give me the reason that they decided it wasn’t for them. One of the reasons I hear most often is “We can’t afford it.”. If you can afford to care for yourself, and the people in your home, you can afford to foster a child. Here’s why I believe that.
I left the meeting still feeling joyful that this child was more “on-target” than many others I have loved, but still saddened by the weight of the internal struggle that I cannot rescue her from. Children, like my daughter, who come to us through the foster care system often attempt to fill a void for love, consistency, and security with food.
Adoption is an AWESOME way to grow your family and to be a blessing to a child who is in need of a permanent loving family. There’s a lot of information on the internet about the adoption process, but from what I can tell the information provided implies that adoption is an expensive process which requires a lot of waiting. Waiting to be chosen by a birth family, waiting for a child to become available for adoption, waiting, waiting, waiting.
One of the many things that’s awesome about domestic adoption through foster care in the United States, is that there’s less waiting and more doing. Patience is not one of my best qualities, so I love the “fast track” that a U.S. adoption can provide.
As a society, we since have decided that adoption is not a shameful status, but something to be celebrated. At least I thought we all understood this. It’s not until I am held captive in a foster-to-adopt training class that I realize we all haven’t shaken the stigma of adoption. In every class there are always a few prospective adoptive parents that ask, “How do we tell them they’re adopted?”. As someone who has done this a few times, I know a thing or two about this topic
For some prospective parents, the options -for adoption can seem overwhelming. It’s easy to get lost in a sea of terms like International Adoption, Open-Adoption, and Foster-to-Adopt. For my husband and I, the choice to Foster-to-Adopt was very simple. There were a few factors that made this an easy decision for us, and here’s our story. We’re representing the Foster-to-Adopt…
The Lord tells us in his word that we can make plans, but ultimately, He determines our steps. This scripture is found in Proverbs 16:9. I find this scripture especially useful to recite when your’e ministering to other people who are going through a hard time. You know, the OTHER people. People who are not You. Others like that co-worker…